Move Over Carrie Bradshaw…You’ve Got Competition
Filed Under (Random Posts) by admin on 01-06-2008
Every time I get ready to blog, I feel like I am a Carrie Bradshaw knock-off. For those of you unaware (mostly men) who she is Carrie is the main character of the hit movie and former HBO series “Sex and the City.” Ms. Bradshaw was known for several things, speakable and unspeakable, but the only similarity that I have with her regards her career as a writer. Before she started to pen her columns she always began them with some thought-provoking question. And that’s sort of how my blogs begin too.
For instance, the thought-provoking question that I’ve been mind-muddling today is –”Is anyone really truly happy with where they are in their life?” I know this is a loaded question, but friends who called me today were subjected to helping me think through this idea.
I guess what spurred this on is that lately I’ve been feeling that I wish I was married. Life would be so much more joyful and fun sharing it with another so I think. I also believe that if I was married then my life would be just perfect. (A kid can daydream right?) But, after thinking these wild thoughts I quickly remembered how many people I know who are married and tell me how much they wish they were single. I even spoke to someone who was married and now is single and he shared that both have their own unique drawbacks. At the end of the day, however, it was Mom who came through. She had an awe-inspiring sense of clarity regarding the ‘grass is always greener’ philosophy. She was married for 51 years and now is a widow. She told me pretty matter-of-factly that she loves her life right now, especially the freedom she has to do as she pleases.
In true Carrie fashion then….”Do we have to wait till we’re widowed to find peace and contentment?”
I’m just having a laugh with you in this post. But, if anyone has any ideas they would like to share with me about how to find contentment on earth as opposed to heaven I’d love to hear about it. For even those of us with faith, have some secret desires or unspoken wishes, I’m sure. A new car always looks terrific. As does a new handbag. A new house. New hair color.
The list of if only’s is endless.
- If only I had a new job then…
- If only I lost ten pounds then…
- If only I got a raise…
- If only
- If only
- If only
If only we were content for this very precious moment. If we could open our mind and heart to take in the beauty of “now.” Right now it’s a beautiful night where I am. The stars and moon are casting wonderful shadows in my backyard. My family is safe and healthy. My computer rocks. My friends are supportive. God is good.
My marital status may say single, but I’m far from being alone. My wish for you is that you may find peace and contentment in moments right where you are. My hope is that these moments will string together enough for you to never say ‘if only’ ever again. If only…
Good night friends.
Carrie…er Cindy
P.S. When reading this to my Mom for her edits, she thought I was comparing myself to Terry Bradshaw! She was scratching her head wondering why I was comparing myself to the former football star. You can’t write this stuff - it’s just too good.
What does that mean you think, that human beings constantly have this hole that needs filling? Is it an American thing? A woman thing? Looking toward the next step and not taking stock for where we are in the present and being content with it. We are there for a reason right? If you’re single and happy there’s the job, the girlfriends, the family, the boyfriends, the fianceés, the house. If you’re married and happy, then there comes the kids, then the houses, the cars, the jobs, the vacations, the retirement, the grandkids. Find anyone who seems to have it all together and I bet you will find they want something better.